Forgotten Change...

And I don't mean coins or lower denomination currency notes. I mean the change that is the only constant. The one that hurts and the one that heals. The one that is a promise and a threat. Bad times shall change, but so shall the good ones. Life will never let you get comfortable, will it? Forever a twist, forever a tumble. Change is always the presence right around the corner or the monster under your bed, depending on what you see it as...

Why then were we not programmed for it? Physically, we change yes. We grow. We mature. We become wiser, in a sense. But why does the brain not accept change. Why are we designed to seek comfort in constants that are bound to bend with time? Did God forget change?

Isn't it an interesting thought? Seasons, generations, landscapes, nature, oceans, the most permanent things that we can think of, all change. For God's sake!, even the sun is constantly changing, dying, exploding, over and over again! Our most inexhaustible, renewable resource, not really inexhaustible. We spend a lifetime to build relationships with the people that we think 'match' with us, only for them to stop matching anymore. We spend decades building skills for a career we thought was our passion, only to lose interest in it one day. We spend years constantly working towards our goals, our achievements, only for them to shift. And the only reason that can be given is...... people change. Through no fault of anyone. Not only others, but you yourself. That is actually, the only thing that allows you to write a letter to your 'past/future' self. Because even if you cannot be sure about anything else, you know one thing for sure, that your past or future will be different. That there will be change.

And you can't really call any change positive or negative. Like everything else in life, it's not that black and white. There is grey. And change is grey. It may have disastrous impacts that still leave you with the strength to deal with them. It may have glorious consequences that are grievances for someone else. It can be good AND bad. Not OR. Never OR. And yet just as it is grey in design, it is grey in its time. You never know when things will change for better or for worse. Perhaps that is why people want to freeze time forever. They want things to last long, not forever. They know change will come, but they want to bring it earlier or push it further. And so they bargain. With the only power they can comprehend with minimum effort, God. The cheapest service provider, in currency at least. They swear they will please God if only life stays as it is right now. How laughable it seems sometimes. Pleading with the Almighty to stop change. It's like asking God to stop the sun from rising, the seasons from passing, and life from aging. And yet we beg for it. Because we cannot accept change. It seems like we aren't built to.

Like God put this flaw in humankind, locked the corners of the brain that can process thought deep enough to accept that situations will change. Why?

Perhaps if we could accept change, we would understand it's importance. Stop pleading to freeze time and alter ourselves with it. Our thoughts, our beliefs our 'traditions', rather than being stuck in the past, will walk hand in hand with the present into a modifying future.

But no. We stick to our beliefs like leeches to blood. We reject change, fear it and resist it. "New" is synonymous with "abnormal" and the younger the generations, the more they suffer. It's an eternal fight, to be the harbinger of change. A generation with fresh ideas, concepts of freedom and independence far more liberal than previously known. But they cannot be themselves because we shall not allow it. The world could change, the sun could disappear, God himself could accept it but our mind shall not. Because we fear the unknown. And Change, however minute, is always unknown.

Love, Ri.